Disappointment’s Trap- How to Climb out Instead of Get Stuck.
I was over the moon with excitement. I wanted to clap my hands together and shout, “That’s a wrap people!” As though I were a director on the set of a Hollywood movie or somethin’. In all actuality, I had simply finished recording the first episode of my new podcast, “the real deal.”
I was honored to have my Father, Richard as my first guest and we had concluded our time together. We had recorded something quite unique and special. I thanked my Dad and my husband took a photo of us together as a sweet memory of our time. The reason I wanted to interview my Dad for my first episode as my initial guest is because he is my hero! He more than qualifies as someone, in my book, who is the real deal.
Yes, Richard Heggen certainly is “the real deal!” He is so comfortable in his own skin with his life. I love him. My Father has implored us all, my sisters and me along with our whole nuclear family to be “the real deal.” He instructed us, “Just be yourself. You are one of a kind. Nobody wants phony bologna!” He’s said, “In the art world it is called the ‘honesty of materials.'” He always emphasized to be “the ‘genuine article,’ ‘the real deal.'”
My newest venture in spreading encouragement and exhorting audiences has taken form in this new podcast, called “the real deal” with Rachel Inouye. You can probably imagine my excitement as 2019 arrived. I’m not sure if it was the next week or when it was, but my husband and I looked at the files from the recording of episode 001, only to discover there was no episode 001. It had never been saved or was deleted or some other unknown cause. Nonetheless the podcast was gone, nada, zip, zero, nothin’ honey!
I was more than disappointed. I was a bit nauseous. I told my husband before he left for work, “It’s gonna be okay, but I may cry. I’m sad. It’ll be okay, I know but I might just cry!” A moment later, I recall I said, “I’m sure we can try to re-record it somehow, it’ll be fine honey, but I may… cry.” Then, I did exactly that, I CRIED!
My disappointment stemmed from a few things:
- The audio file was great content and it was lost!
- I felt like I had wasted my Father’s time.
- I thought I had wasted my husband’s time too.
- I was hoping my husband wasn’t feeling accused at all. It wasn’t his fault. He is my forerunner and I was disappointed.
- I wasn’t sure how or when we’d be able to record again.
- My hope of launching a podcast was deferred.
My Father and I don’t live in the same state. I was fortunate to have the time with him while he and my mom and sisters came for a fall visit, so we had recorded then. I knew they were not planning a trip back anytime soon so the possibility of getting this first episode redone seemed unlikely.
I hesitated to do it, but I called my Dad on Face Time and said, “Well, Dad, I’ve got some bad news. Remember recording for the podcast? We don’t know what happened but there is no sound on the audio file. Even though we had listened to it while you were here, remember how we heard parts of it? Well, anyway it’s gone. I’m so sad.”
His response was, “Well, maybe we’ll have to come back and visit you sometime and record something else instead.” As it turned out, that’s what we did. We recorded something else but not here. Instead, while I was back in Iowa visiting we took another swing at it. While together at a family gathering, I grabbed my dad for “the real deal” interview and my husband set up a make shift studio, we settled in, tucked away in my brother-in-law’s office, we recorded “the real deal” with Rachel Inouye Episode 001.
Here’s how I climbed out of the disappointment trap:
- I recognized my true disappointment and I grieved. Yes, the audio files were lost, the content was precious, but it was gone…So I cried. (I allowed myself to go there, but I didn’t stay there.)
- I asked God to make a way to recovered or redo.
- I prayed with a friend, she asked for “a better outcome than the first version.”
- I let it go and moved forward.
- I was kind to myself and my husband.
- I looked for the positive spin on it. Is there a silver lining here?
- I “got back on the horse” and tried it again.
- I realized I am strong! My resolve proved I’m energized by this endeavor; I am made to do this. (Persevere )
- I DIDN’T GET STUCK!
If you are dealing with disappointment of any kind BIG or SMALL, I hope you will bounce back or climb out of the trap too. One thing I have been challenged to declare is…There is always a solution.
Here’s the good news. I believe my new podcast episode 001 was meant to be and it launched on January 8, 2019 which was my Dad’s eighty-eighth birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Richard and happy birthday “the real deal” with Rachel Inouye.
Here is the link to listen to episode 001. I sure hope you are blessed by it. If you like it SUBSCRIBE and RATE and REVIEW it. Thanks. There is much more to come!
Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life. Proverbs 13:12